Survivors Guilt with Ryan M. Esquivel

Today on Mindset Monday, Ryan M. Esquivel shares his journey to overcome Survivors Guilt, PTSD and trauma to living a life that is full of love, joy and helping others on their own personal journey.

His journey began in February of 2004 when his roommate and best friend was killed in action. He was with him a couple of hours before he died and that moment kept playing in his head long after he returned home.

When he returned home he threw himself into work and his military relationship suffered, his personal relationships suffered, because he wanted his friend back. Ryan began to blame people and his world contracted as people began leaving him. It wasn’t until about 2008 when he experienced a one in a million moments.

A private ran into him in Southern California and asked him if he knew his roommate. It turned out that it was his best friend. They learned to value each other and became really good friends over the years. Ryan tells us that was the start of his faith, a belief in a God, energy, something out there. He began to start to put his life together and see-sawed back and forth of finding a job, losing a job, in and out of that dark place.

He discovered that you need to find the joy, your purpose and the meaning of life. It may sound cliche but when you are on a journey you learn that when you share your pain it feels better. It wasn’t until 2018 that looking back he was able to see, people had been taking care of him all along.

His Fav. Book

  • Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck

  • Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth by T. Harv Eker

As we get deep into Ryan’s journey he shares how carrying Survivors Guilt began to impact his relationship with his family. He replayed the picture in his mind and wanted to go back and change it. He realized that loving people is hard, sharing is hard and the more you love and share the easier it becomes. Listen to the whole interview to hear the whole story.